There is nothing easier than getting into a right relationship with God except when it is not God Whom you want, but only what He gives. If you have only come the length of asking God for things, you have never come to the first strand of abandonment, you have become a Christian from the standpoint of your own. 'I did ask God for the Holy Spirit, but He did not give me the rest and the peace I expected.' Instantly God puts His finger on the reason--you are not seeking the Lord at all, you are seeking something for yourself." ~ Oswald Chambers
I do not need to add anything to that.